123: Authentic Leadership
FACING FEAR AND ADVERSITY
Being fearless isn’t the lack of fear. Rather, it is about acknowledging, facing and conquering fears. Fearlessness is being open to the results of the experience whether it be good or bad. There are so many lessons to learn from failure and adversity, but you will not give yourself the chance to grow if you keep yourself safe in what’s known and secure. Overcoming adversity is what makes a leader a great leader.
Today’s guest is a man who harnesses the power of fear. He is an expert on authentic leadership. His highly popular book, The Crucible’s Gift: 5 Lessons from Authentic Leaders Who Thrive in Adversity is empowering people to face what scares them, embrace it, and use it as a stepping stone for leadership. He also delivers this important message in his podcast, Executive After Hours. Get ready for expansion, growth and inspiration from Dr. James Kelley.
In this podcast, Dr. James Kelley reveals how to become and authentic leader.
You will discover:
- Major adversities that helped Dr. Kelley become the man he is today
- How a DUI experience helped him grow
- The power of “flipping” to combat fear.
- Your lizard brain’s dangerous agenda
- How Enlightened Warrior Training Camp changes lives in five days
- How your darkest moment can become your greatest gift
- How life in the Middle East redefined James Kelley’s comfort zone
- Secrets of Dr. Kelley’s Authentic Leadership model
- How to spot your false narratives on happiness and success
- The power of micro-moments of meaning
- How crucible moments can enrich your life
- How thinking about your eulogy can make you a better leader
- The importance of self-compassion
QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE
“We all have moments. The bigger question is not if we have them but if we are able to reflect on them and find a good in them to expand who we are as human beings.”
“You are allowed to have your pity if you want it but the important thing is not to wallow in it.”
“We are all creatures of our social construction that we’ve been created and raised in.”
“We only know our truth based on the environment that we are raised in.”
“Don’t let fear conquer you. You conquer your fear.”
“Fear is a fundamental factor on many of the choices that we make.”
“The world changes when your mind changes.”
“Somebody always has it worse than you.”
“If you are not evolving, you are dying.”
“When we have adversity, we often don’t know that that moment is transformational.”
“Money doesn’t actually equate to happiness.”
“Authenticity is trying to be a better version of yourself for the greater good of society.”
“Crucible moment is any fundamental moment in your life that forces you to take pause and re-evaluate and fundamentally shift who you are.”
“It’s so hard to take care of yourself. But when you do, it makes it easier to take care of other people.”
“To be right with yourself means you can be right with other people.”
“Do what is right but you don’t have to be right.”
BOOKS IN THIS PODCAST
The Crucible’s Gift: 5 Lessons from Authentic Leaders Who Thrive in Adversity by James B. Kelley
The Obstacle Is the Way by Ryan Holiday
Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Eker
Solve for Happy: Engineer Your Path to Joy by Mo Gawdat
Triggers by Mark Reiter and Marshall Goldsmith
High Fidelity by Nick Hornby
Conversations Worth Having by Cheri B. Torres and Jacqueline M. Stavros
“Don’t let fear conquer you. Conquer fear.” – Dr. James Kelley
CONTACT DR. JAMES KELLEY
Dr. James Kelly’s Website – www.drjameskelley.com
LINKS AND RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE
Executives After Hours Podcast
Millionaire Mind Intensive
The Quantum Leap Program
Life Without Limbs // Nick Vujicic
Ideo
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